If you sincerely desire to follow Jesus Christ, life won’t always be easy. Many times the Bible promises victory, and you may need to remind yourself that there can be no victory without struggling and overcoming obstacles.

In my book, I used the image of God turning out the lights because that was how I perceived the situation. I felt as if I walked in darkness for 18 months. We all interact differently with God, and my experience won’t be the same as yours. Even so, most serious Christians have times when God seems to turn away or stops listening. And we feel alone.

Perhaps it’s like the time the Israelites cried out to God for many years because of the Egyptian oppression. “God heard their groaning, and he remembered his covenant promise…and knew it was time to act” (Exodus 2:24 NLT). God hadn’t forgotten, of course, but from their perspective, that’s how it must have seemed. It may seem like that to you if you’re going through your own form of darkness.

Here are a few suggestions to help you:

1. Ask God this simple question: “Have I knocked out the lights by my failures? Have I sinned against you? After you ask the question, listen. Give God the opportunity to speak to you.

2. Don’t see this as divine punishment (unless God shows you it is), but consider the silence an act of divine love to move you forward. This is God’s method to teach you and stretch you.

3. Avoid asking why. You don’t need reasons and explanations–and you probably won’t get them anyway. Instead, remind yourself that this temporary darkness is to prepare you for greater light.

4. Say as little as possible to your friends. Most friends will want to “fix” you or heal you and they can’t. They may offer advice (often not helpful) or make you feel worse (“Are you sure everything is right between you and God?”).

5. Stay with the “means of grace.” That is, don’t neglect worship with other believers even if you feel empty. Read your Bible even if you can’t find anything meaningful.

I chose to read Lamentations and Psalms (several times, especially Lamentations) because they expressed some of the pain and despair I felt.

6. If you don’t have a daily prayer time, start one. Perhaps something as short as three minutes–and do it daily. Talk honestly to God. It’s all right to get angry. (Read the Psalms if you’re hesitant.)

7. Remind yourself, “I am in God’s hands. This is where I belong and I’ll stay in the blackout until I’m ready to move forward.”

8. Pray these words daily: “But who can discern their own errors? Forgive my hidden faults” (Psalm 19:12 TNIV). Some versions say “secret sins.” These are failures and sins of which you may not yet be aware. One of the purposes of your darkness may be to bring those hidden problems to light.

9. Ask God, “What do you want me to learn from this experience?” You may not get an answer, but it’s still a good question. Continue to ask–even after the lights go back on again. If you’re open, you will learn more about yourself and also about God.

10. As you receive “light” about yourself while walking in darkness, remind yourself, God has always known and still loves me.


When God Turned Off the Lights: True Stories of Seeking God in the Darkness
When God Turned Off the Lights
by Cecil Murphey

Is it possible that God would use a time of spiritual loneliness and isolation in our life as an answer to our prayer for “something more?” That’s what happened with best-selling author Cecil Murphey. In When God Turned Off the Lights (Regal, September 2009), he openly shares from his journey that seemed to be stalled in darkness.

Murphey decided to write about his months of seeking God in the darkness because he suspected his situation wasn’t unique. “If this happened to me, a rather ordinary believer, surely there are others out there who have wept in the isolated blackness of night and wondered if they would ever see God’s smile again.”

Murphey could have handled this topic as a theologian and given pages of heavy, hard-to-read advice, but he chose to write from his heart and expose it for the readers to see. He talks honestly and shares his skepticism and frustration. He asks hard questions. And he lays out the steps of healing that brought him back to the light.

When God Turned Off the Lights is a book for those of us who ask, “What’s wrong with me? Why are others living in the sunlight while nothing but dark clouds and darkness envelop me?” Readers will learn:

• Why God turns off the lights
• Why we have to have dark nights
• Why asking “why” isn’t the right question
• What’s worse than going through the darkness
• How to feel worthwhile and accepted by God

About Cec Murphey

Award-winning writer Cecil Murphey is the author or co-author of more than 100 books, including the “New York Times” bestseller 90 Minutes in Heaven (with Don Piper) and Gifted Hands: The Ben Carson Story (with Dr. Ben Carson). He’s also the author of When Someone You Love Has Cancer and Christmas Miracles, both 2009 releases. Murphey’s books have sold millions and have brought hope and encouragement to countless people around the world.

Personal, not because Mr. Murphey is telling his own story, but because the writing has the tone of a friend’s letter. Not just any friend, a friend who is walking the road with you, a shared experience.

Each little chapter expresses feelings I had during the cancer journey. The emotions that nag caregivers and family members: The guilt, the pain, the fear.  Mr. Murphey has not written fluffy, feel-good words, but the gut-wrenching words that go through our minds, and sometimes out our lips.

The length is that of a booklet, making it easy to read. Just right for those odd moments that a caregiver has to capture time alone. I would have preferred, however, paperback dimensions to easily slip the book into a pocket or bag.

The one negative is has been categorized as a “gift book.” There is too much practical information to be simply a gift book. It appears much too pretty to have practical advice, and could be easily set aside.

An advantage of a gift book is the quality. The cover  and illustrations are refreshing and design style indicate this book is more than a how-to. The small tome is a respite to return to during the long days and weeks of dealing with cancer.

Although the focus is on families dealing with cancer, all caregivers can use the inspiration along with practical advice.

Every hospice, oncologist, and church should have this book available for family members. Although it is Christian at its core, the words are for everyone, including professional caregivers.

Don’t be afraid to purchase When Someone You Love Cancer for yourself. It is a gift to yourself, and a gift for your loved one, as you help in the healing process.

When Someone You Love Has Cancer
Cecil Murpehy
Harvest House Publishers
ISBN: 978-0-7369-2428-3